THESE RELATIONSHIP TIPS WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE

We all have different perspectives about life and relationship. No two person’s reality is same – Reality Is an Illusion. Your reality is in your brain, my reality is in my brain. That is true but we have patterns of perspectives and philosophy of life about life and relationship. There are basics that we learned over the course of civilization and those are always true but we tend to overlook them often. Going back to the basics is the most modern thing in managing relationship. Human beings live for three basic needs – knowledge to meet curiosity, self-assertion to meet social esteem and apetition to meet psychological and physiological hunger. In the age of social media and fast digital society, we subconsciously tend to catch up to the speed of what we see around us. We are exposed to a vast array of information, stories, graphics and emotions to shape our perspective. This is why we must remember the basics. There is no limit to how much you can or should know. People often seek information about partners or lovers or friends in all possible ways out there. They are always under pressure to know more or to find ways to know more. This creates distress into your perception about the relation and the person on the other side of the relation. Seeking a new partner or validating an existing partner gets way too stressful and the stress shows into your behavior.

In the end, this affects your judgement and your relation. The good old way of knowing a person from friends or social engagement is still the best. And obviously e-dating and mating by chatting already is proving far too risky than ever before for the same reason. Parkinson’s law of triviality explains why we consume so much digital and social news or information. People these days spend way too much time in something that they easily understand than something that find complicated. Casual reading is good for a break but serious reading and decisions must not come from piles of trivial reading or app-flipping. Quantity without quality social media then gives an illusion of social status that I am better than others – I know this news ahead of others, I look better than others, I visited the place before others…the list goes on. Internet is helpful, digital media is unavoidable to get connected to society recently but do not prejudice your judgement of life and relation with your partner (or potential partner if you are on the lookout) by this vast yet trivial inputs to your brain.

Read substances, think deeply and develop a relation based on your perception, thinking and real knowledge. Then there is a good chance that you will not stumble in your relations.